you need a lot of these letters to make a mat. but each letter functions on its own sweet way

just like this cotton candy...
one container, four different flavors 

people need to learn that no matter how close they are to a person, that person's business is not theirs. Most of the time, it is insulting to give unsolicited advice or help. Not meddling with a someone's problem doesn't mean being inconsiderate of that someone's feelings. On the contrary, it's the best expression of telling him/her that he/she is smart and strong enough to handle his/her situation.